Inquisitive MIL!

The PCA scheduled to work the 3:30 - 9:30 shift with my MIL on Saturday cancelled (that's a whole fiascoe in itself for another post!!) so Walleye and I filled in.  Actually let me back up - I filled in while Walleye first tackled water in our basement and then spent the rest of the time mowing my FIL's yard and fixing the lawn mower. 

So needless to say my MIL and I had a lot of time to chat on Saturday afternoon/evening and it had been a while since she had asked me whether or not Walleye and I were going to have kids so I just knew it was coming.

So as I sat there talking with her she got quite and then said "I have something to ask but I don't know how." I told her she can ask me anything and to just spit it out.  She hemmed and hawed for a minute or two and I could tell she was trying to think of a delicate way to bring it up. 

Finally she said, "are you and Walleye trying to not have kids?"

"No, we are trying." I responded

"Well maybe you should go to the Dr?" she said.

I replied "Well to be completely honest we have been to a Dr.  In fact many Drs.  and are now going to the cities to a Reproductive Endocrinologist as I have been diagnosed with PCOS."

She got quiet and said "Oh, at least your seeing someone because I was going tell you how you might need to get things checked out if you've been trying for this long with no luck." and then she proceeded to tell me how she used NFP to conceive my BIL and thought if she did backwards NFP she'd space out my BIL and Walleye but "OOPS!  That doesn't work."

It was awkward and I was glad she didn't ask many questions and was just satisfied that we had been going to a Dr.  I have barely given my Mom any details so I really didn't want to have to give my MIL much.  When I told Walleye about the conversation he was a little surprised I told her about the PCOS as the last time I couldn't tell her.  Then he said he never thought about how awkward it would be for me to talk about it with his Mom and that he didn't think his Mom would every have told her MIL anything that private - but he was appreciative I told her. (Probably so he doesn't get grilled and have to tell her himself!)

I did feel somewhat bad for not telling her the complete truth but that announcement will come soon enough.  And I just know once we tell her she will tell all of her PCA's.  One of her PCA's is the MIL of one of Walleye's former roommates and I just know the minute that PCA hears she'll tell the former roommate and he'll tell all Walleye's friends and we want to be in control of when/how people find out. 

It was a less than stellar weekend.  Not only did we spend mucho time out at my MIL's but my BIL accused Walleye of being completely selfish, self-centered and not willing to help out ever.  What?!?!  Have we not given up every single evening, then taken over the shift for the PCA even though we haven't been trained in my MIL's care necessities?  He went so far as to tell Walleye that they can't even enjoy their vacation because Walleye is making it so hard for them to.  Huh?  Walleye hasn't complained to them once and the only thing was one day my FIL called Walleye at work to talk about who was covering the PCA on Saturday.  But Walleye was at work and couldn't talk so was sort of short with him but told him we had it covered.  But really?  If they cared that much then why aren't they calling my MIL more than once every few days?  Or calling Walleye or I for updates and not to yell at us?  Or really, why'd they even go? 

On top of all that drama right before we had to be at my MIL's on Saturday I went downstairs to feed the cats and noticed the carpet in the hallway and scrapbooking room were completely sopping wet and it had started to get the sheet rock wet.  So I had to run to my MIL's while Walleye called pluming/heating guy to come take a look.  Thankfully one of the hosts from our wedding has his own plumbing and heating company so he came right out (and for FREE!).  Turns out we had completely forgotten to change the air filter in the furnace and it was so clogged it caused the A/C coil to freeze up.  So we have to turn off the A/C and let it thaw and dry out good.  We have every fan in the house blowing on something and our poor dehumidifier has been running on full blast non-stop...but thankfully it wasn't anything more serious.